That email, text, or phone call—the complaint that blindsides you and suddenly takes over your thoughts. You replay it endlessly, analyzing every angle. It’s like a broken record: repeat, repeat, repeat.
You try everything to move on:
Logically review the details—your paper trail says you’re fine, but doubt lingers.
Consult a trusted colleague—they reassure you, but you’re still unsettled.
Push through a tough workout—endorphins help, but only for a while.
Meditate, journal, pray—brief calm, but the thoughts return.
Distract yourself with Netflix or a glass of wine—temporary relief, then back it comes.
No matter what you do, the thoughts persist. Sometimes, they spiral into worst-case scenarios. Your usual strategies just aren’t working.
So, what’s really going on? We all have old wounds and unresolved pain. Sometimes, a simple message hooks into that deeper hurt. The trigger isn’t the real problem—it’s what it awakens inside us. That’s why your reaction feels so intense and out of proportion.
The first step to breaking free is recognizing what’s happening. No matter how accomplished you are, you’re human—and you have places that need healing, just like everyone else.
If you find yourself triggered, it might be a sign you’re ready to face some of that old pain. Reach out to someone you trust—a wise friend, mentor, or therapist. Create a safe space to look inward and allow yourself to heal.
